Mirror, Mirror…

How do we begin the journey toward healing from what ails us? It is a question we all face at one point or another. I believe one of the most effective ways to start is simply by looking in the mirror.

For myself and many of the clients I work with, the default setting is often to look outward. It is easy to blame a spouse, children, parents, or personal circumstances for our challenges. Finding a convenient scapegoat for dissatisfaction or pain is an absolute dead end. It keeps us stuck and prevents us from recognizing that we are the only ones with the power to change the situation.

While this initial self-reflection is crucial, the journey of healing is not solitary. To truly improve, it is imperative that we surround ourselves with "mirrors"—people from whom we cannot hide.

This goes beyond basic accountability, which can often feel transactional. This level of community is deeper. It is about giving those who have earned our trust true accessibility and permission to step into our lives when they see us straying from the path we have committed to.

These "mirrors" are trusted voices that reflect our true selves, our goals, and our best intentions back to us, even when we struggle to see them. They provide the safe, honest space where healing begins and where we commit to seeing ourselves clearly.

If you have taken that initial glance in the mirror and are ready to begin your healing journey, the next step is to reach out for help. Whether it is a therapist, coach, trusted family member, or close friend, healing builds momentum when we surround ourself with those who don't let us hide from ourselves.

Andrew Reichel